To say that I have a few pet peeves is an understatement. Anyone who knows me is probably laughing at that statement. Not using turn signals, waking up early, people who don't hold doors, and movie prices are the few I could think of off the top of my head. But there are few things that piss me off more than plan-cancelling.
DISCLAIMER: This post is not in response to anything in particular, no recent event in my life. Keep in mind that just because you have ever cancelled plans on me does not mean I hate you or this post is directed at you, in fact I probably love you if I'm making plans with you. So stop being so paranoid, because paranoia ain't the way to live your life from day to day (name that song and you win 1000 points and my eternal respect). Also, I am not claiming to never have canceled plans in my life, so chillax.
Maybe it's just my OCD tendencies kicking in, but I'm big on putting things together, from going to dinner, to parties, to large scale road trips to limos. I'm almost always
that person partially because my parents were always the ones wanting to know all the info about plans and partially because I like (borderline need) to know where I'm going, when I'm going, who I'm going with and how I'm getting there. It's just I NEED TO KNOW. However, it has been brought to my attention time and time again that people have little to no disregard for the effort it takes to plan even the simplest of dinner-outings (or at least I feel like it's a huge ordeal-who's driving who? when does so-and-so get off work? where are we going? what time? etc.) And before you jump at me, yes, I know life gets in the way of life (trust me, I know) but that only happens so much and there are some things that just cannot happen spur of the moment. There are some things that you need to give a definite answer to several days in advance and be counted on to be there (whether it be to be the driver or to pay someone back for a ticket purchased or whatever). I can't begin to tell you how many movie tickets I've had to pay for because people backed out on me. And yes, I'm a pushover and am too much of a pansy to demand that people pay, so I guess that's on me. But that's not the point. The point is that people today need to learn to use a calendar and make certain they can make a particular event or else make their uncertainty clear to the planner. Because, speaking for myself only, I get really excited to do things with people, and when you bail last minute I get super bummed because I've probably been looking forward to seeing you (because you're probably awesome). Plus, bailing might mean that the whole plan has to change last minute meaning I have to send a thousand texts/make ten phone calls straightening out everything. Or you bailing might cause a chain reaction meaning that everything just falls apart and I'm uber-bummed. Bottom line: when you commit to plans, try and give an honest analysis of if you can be there. I'd rather someone tell me straight up they can't come then bail two days before. It's common courtesy and saves the planner a shit-ton of stress.
Life lessons from Krysti...
